been weighing heavily on me for some time, the term “real women have curves.”What? So to be a “real” woman, one must have ample curves and an hourglass figure? What does that make me? I often joke that I am built like a rectangle or a board. Not many curves happening here. So does that make me any less of a women? A fake women? What, what am I?
Lots of debate has been going on recently surrounding Maria Kang and her “fat shaming.” While I do not think it right, just or moral to shame anyone no matter what their size, I wonder why is it considered wrong, rude and hurtful to shame, criticize or judge those who have curves or are carrying some extra weight, but acceptable to scrutinize those without curves. I’ve seen things written online or said to myself and others I
know that are just as hurtful as calling someone fat, etc. For example: “eat a sandwich”, “gain some weight”, “too skinny”, or the most hurtful “anorexic”, all of which have been said, written, or aimed at me at some point in my life, and mother too for that matter. So because I am not a “real” woman with curves, it’s justifies these tactless statements? It doesn’t hurt any less, believe me. I work hard to change the things I can and to accept the things I cannot (like my curves, or lack thereof). But because I was genetically predisposed to a certain body type it makes it okay for others to criticize? We talk so openly about loving our bodies, about
being "body positive" and comfortable in our own skin. So why shame anyone? If they love who they are, if they are striving to make a positive change in their life why judge? Our society seems to be obsessed with thinness, both positively and negatively. Thin shaming in my mind is just as wrong as fat shaming. This idea of "real women" needs to be abolished. All bodies are good bodies. All women are “real women”. All bodies are REAL bodies. Enough said! Maybe the real focus should be loving ourselves, our fellow man (and women) and instead of being obsessed with weight worry about your health, you’ll be amazed how freeing it is. Shaming one body type in order to promote another is never acceptable, no matter how you do it.